and for that most part that's totally true. because being in a sorority is awesome. and being an AOII is even more awesome but i wish i could say that being part of a sorority is all giggles and rainbows and ponies all the time.
the truth of the matter is, it isn't. don't get me wrong. i loved it while i was there and i love being an advisor now. something about giving back to the chapter that did so much for me, makes my heart all warm and fuzzy feeling.
but then that warm fuzziness fades and you're bitch slapped in the face with reality.
college girls can be mean. in every sorority there are those few girls that literally think they shit rainbows and never do wrong.
if you know me at all, you know this doesn't sit well with me.
i live in the real world. where reality is not always great but you keep living because, sometimes, it's all you can do.
unfortunately, i've had to burst a few of those bubbles for some of my sorority girls. it's not fun and i don't think it will ever get easy but honestly, i wish someone had done that for me while i was still in college.
because people in the real world don't hold back. and they certainly don't sugar coat things and stroke your ego all day long so you feel good about yourself.
in the real world, you get fired. your boyfriend breaks up with you. people who were your friends one day just aren't anymore. there are no redos or makeups. you don't always get told why. there aren't always explanations of everything. and sometimes, there is no such thing as fair. you get what you get and you don't throw a fit (thanks liv, for that one.).
in the real world, it's all about the attitude you have with yourself and others when life throws these things at you. you can choose to be negative or positive. miserable or happy. self confident or self loathing. friendly or mean.
i wish we could all choose to be good and do what's right. sometimes negagtivity gets the better of us. but, isn't it better to learn that while you're 19 or 20 and still in college (while it's appropriate to make bad decisions and "experiment")?
i guess i can only hope that i'm teaching them something while still learning myself. i think i am. good gosh, i hope so!
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